These are some recent thank you letters from clients whom I've helped. As they consulted me for confidential reasons, I've not used their real names here

My partner and I have finally found a way to mend things and the relationship is going well. I want to thank you very much for your support and the time you gave to coach me. Caitlin

I don't feel so alone now. I now know that what I do is not wrong or weird and because of you I feel a whole lot better and happier in myself. Naomi

My experience in your workshop has left a mark on me that I will not forget for a long time. Mark

I browsed through your book last night and know already that it is going to be by my side at all times. Elaine

This isn't a question. I just wanted to email and say that I find your answers give a different angle than usual; you offer thoughtful questions to people and as a result I've sometimes been able to think about how I view things – and it's taught me to try a different way too. Your advice page is one of the best I read. Tom

The workshop you gave was incredibly moving and you showed terrific skill in guiding us through it. Sarah

I'm not a woman, but I hope you don't mind me writing. By chance I clicked on your column and read the questions and your answers. I couldn't believe it – your answers were all so right. I'm amazed by your talent to diagnose and cure people's problems. Ahmed

I read you every week and, whilst not having any major problems in my life, I always feel I learn something from your objective and kind but firm responses to your correspondents. You have a sane and clear voice that greatly informs and is much appreciated even by us without traumas to share! Beth

Your book is so useful in explaining everything one needs to know about relationships... my husband and I both now feel we can't get enough of each other. Thanks again. Claire

I often read your advice and am always struck by how you manage to make it both sensible and sensitive. I also owe you some personal thanks – I read your response to the woman who was homosexual and desperately wanted children. I am suffering a similar dilemma, and was wondering whether it was entirely fair to raise a child without a male parent. However, after reading your sensible and logical advice I feel much better about the whole thing. I have no doubt that you are helping many others besides me. Caroline

Sincere thanks for your wonderful presentation on Thursday – it was exactly right for the counsellors and from their feedback I know they got such a lot from it. Deborah

Just wanted to feedback on such an enjoyable workshop last night at The School of Life – brilliant stuff. I thought it was really good to be forced to engage with whether I am able to reconcile what I want from sex and what is is realistic to be able to expect from sex. Jane

I'm writing to tell you how good I think your book is. I have always felt I didn't understand people as well as I wanted to, and now I have some clue – particularly about my in-laws! Tasha

Thank you. What a fabulous response – I feel loads better. You're right, I probably am doing nothing wrong, I just need to prepare myself for some odd responses to my friendly nature. I will keep your reply to remind me of your common sense and good advice. Kate